Monster
Today I am unravelling selfishness. I am selfish.
I am unapologetic. I rather see
my Mom in pain, every day, than set her free. I won’t do it. I know the
ramifications if I tell her “It’s ok Mom. I am fine. You can go.” I will stay selfish and allow the guilt to
suffocate me, until I am no more. My
decision is made with eyes open and a clear mind. It is my choice. Am I a monster? Yes.
I dislike who I am with respect to my Mom. Today I went to
see her. I fed her breakfast. She ate oatmeal, eggs, and a muffin. With each spoonful of food that I gently
placed in her mouth she seemed happy. She ate 80% of what was on her plate, and drank all of her tea and her
protein supplement. I am so proud of her. 20 minutes earlier when I arrived at
her door, the attendants were helping her get ready for the day. I stood outside of her room and
listened. No, I was not intending to
eavesdrop. I wanted to allow for privacy and her inherent dignity. Mom was crying because of her pain. She is in
constant pain. I hear the attendants speak to Mom, with empathy and
respect. She is surprised to see me
standing her doorway. She looks at me as
she tilts her head slightly. “I almost didn’t recognize you.”
One day soon it will happen. One day soon she will forget how to eat. One day soon she will forget me. One day soon she will forget who she is
and who she was. I know this. I am crying as I write this. None of this is
right. She worked and struggled all of her
life. Now at 79 she suffers. The
medication helps. The doctors, nurses,
personal support workers, all help. Her
friends help. Visits with Emma and Eric
help. Prayers do help. Everyone helps.
Then there is me. For 43, almost 44 years Mom represents my
life line. Without her…
There is NO without her.
I will never set her free.
I will never tell her that I am fine.
I will never say “It’s ok Mom, you can go.”
I cannot live without her.
I am a monster.
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